So for one reason or another, you’ve somehow found yourself miles away from your beloved and you’re not exactly loving the situation.
Whether you’re in different colleges, on Erasmus or you simply live too far away, embarking on a long-distance relationship is not as hard as people make it out to be – but that’s not saying it’s easy.
Staying together while physically being apart adds another layer to your relationship, and it can take some time to learn how to navigate through that. Here are some tips to make it that bit easier:
1. Make sure you’re both on the same page.
Whether you entered into the relationship knowing that it was going to be long-term long-distance, or the distance is a recent development, it’s important to ensure that both people are agreed on the relationship. Maybe you want to go the distance on a trial basis, or you’re both agreed that this is only a temporary thing. It’s important to discuss it so that neither one of you are left worrying about the relationship all on your own.
2. Make dates.
Life is busy enough without trying to fit in a feature-length phone call every evening. You don’t want to pressure yourselves into speaking every second of every day purely because you’re apart from each other, because that won’t end well. Instead of scheduling dates, schedule phone calls where you can both sit down and spend some virtual time chatting together.
3. Use the space.
Often times when people embark on a long-distance relationship, they may feel pressured to increase their contact with their other half to make up for the fact that they are now apart. Thought it may seem like extra contact and chatting will improve things, it might also do the opposite. No one wants to be tied to their phone or laptop all day, so make sure to give each other space to actually live your life.
4. Look beyond your relationship.
When you’re away from your partner, especially if you’ve moved abroad somewhere by yourself, it can be easy to retreat into yourself and spend your time wishing you were at home with bae. Don’t let the changed dynamic of your relationship stop you from doing your everyday things. It’s perfectly normal, and frankly expected, that you will miss them, but don’t let it overwhelm you.
5. Involve them in your present.
Don’t forget to update them on what’s going on in your life, not just the fact that you miss them or want to see them. There’s definitely more stuff going on in your life that they will want to hear about, so make sure to not let all conversations dwell on your relationship.
6. Think of the future.
Nothing makes time go faster – and sometimes slower – than making plans for the future. Try work out when the next time you can meet up, and make some plans for it. Having something to look forward to will make the distance easier.
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