Sexual Health

It’s ‘Cuffing Season’. What is it and How do we Survive it?

And so it begins. The evenings get darker. The weather gets colder. Our beds feel bigger and our hearts get lonelier. Ah, cuffing season. Love it or hate it, it’s back with a vengeance. By definition, (and by definition, I 100% mean urban definition), cuffing season is that time of year when the cold and dark weather causes people, “who would normally rather be single or promiscuous”, finding themselves longing to be tied down or in a serious relationship.

So, how do we know if our new boo is serious and not just influenced by the cuffing season? And if we already have a significant other, how do we stay unaffected by the season?

  1. If you do happen to have a new bae, don’t assume the worst in them. Yes, people are more likely to want a relationship this time of year, but that doesn’t mean they’re going to dump you at the first signs of spring. Talk to them about their intentions and what they want to get out of the relationship. That way, you can manage your expectations appropriately.
  2. Don’t believe everything you see or read online. Social media has a habit of causing serious FOMO (fear of missing out). If a friend of yours has recently posted a flashy pic of themselves and their new love interest, don’t feel disheartened. They probably just met them on Tinder after feeling the symptoms of cuffing season. Meaning, you too can find yourself a partner, should you feel the desire to.
  3. Get swiping, mate! There are multiple dating apps out there with hundreds of people waiting to hear from you. Don’t avoid them because of the awkwardness. Once you get over the initial few awkward texts, you can really make some great connections.
  4. If you’re feeling the effects of the season but are not looking for a relationship, don’t fret! Relationships are not things to be rushed, so do not feel that you are being stubborn by not giving in to the temptations of this time of year.
  5. Remember that the single life is just as fun as the cuffed-up life. Embrace the party season in full swing and have fun!

With these tips in mind, I’m sure we can all get through this season knowing we will come out on the other side either single and ready to mingle, or cuffed-up. Whatever you choose to do this cuffing season, remember that you are a queen (or king) and should always be living your best life, bae or no bae.