Cuffing Season is well and truly in full swing. Let’s face it, an Irish winter can be down right depressing:it gets darker, colder and exam season is upon us. Since it’s gotten colder out there you may have heard the word cuffing thrown about or seen it in memes and wondered what the hell it’s all about.
Well, the Urban Dictionary is here to help and explain it:
During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.
Brittany: Why is everyone trying to holla this week like outta no where?
Tiara: You know cuffing season is in full effect right?
Brittany: Oh yeah you right. I know I won’t be sleeping alone this weekend.
Basically, Cuffing Season is a time where young men and women start to search for winter friends with benefits. While being single during the holidays can be fun, people want to find someone special to help them pass long winter nights. Cuffing sounds very BDSM but really it just stems from the word handcuff and the fact that you attach yourself to another person during those months.
Like ghosting, cuffing is one of those dating terms that only appeared in recent years. The term cuffing was first discovered on Urban Dictionary in 2011 but we’re sure it’s been happening a lot longer than that. In Ireland winters get really cold; there’s frost, ice and hailstones and staying in usually sounds a lot more appealing than heading out and braving the elements. People get bored and lonely, and with dating apps you can now strike up a relationship with someone from the comfort of your own living room. It’s almost too easy.
According to Hello Giggles, Cuffing Season begins in November and ends in March. Apparently cuffing is built into our evolutionary make up, so the next time your friends slag you for heading around to Nicole’s house again, remind them that this is in your nature, cave men and women were probably huddling together for warmth.
Bustle also recently ran an article where experts warned against cuffing for a number of reasons, stating amongst other reasons that it could be emotionally risky. But if you both know that what you’re getting into is a temporary thing you should emerge unscathed. Be careful though, if someone who you’ve liked for a while is suddenly showing interest, check out their motives. Do they really like you or are they just looking for someone to get them through the lonely winter months?
What do you do if your ex is suddenly getting friendly again or a rando is constantly messaging you and you don’t want to be cuffed this year? Listen to my girl Dua Lipa.