College Life

Campus.ie Opinion: Being In A Relationship In College Isn’t A Death Sentence

One of the biggest debates about college life is whether students should get into serious relationships, or stay single. Usually when someone starts college, they are moving to a new city, and they have the chance to reinvent themselves. Does this mean that to get the real college experience you should stay single and “free” while living the party lifestyle?

No, it doesn’t. I don’t see why being in a relationship in college would dampen anyone’s student experience. Chances are if you are moving to a new city, you will meet more people who share your interests. This can lead to great relationships with like-minded souls who you would never have met back home.

A lot of single people view couples as annoying or “dry”. While there are some boring couples out there who live to sit by the fire and watch ‘Rome to Improve’, please don’t tar us all with the same brush. Chances are you will really get along with your friend’s partners, they are with them for a reason after all. They can also add a different dimension to the friendship group that wasn’t there before.

A big part of student life is going out with friends. If you are in a relationship, that doesn’t mean you have to sit inside with your significant other while your friends go clubbing. Why can’t you do both? Going out isn’t all about trying to pull, it should be about having a laugh with your friends and dancing the night away.

If you feel like you can’t go out because you are in a relationship, the problem isn’t the fact you’re taken, the issue is you. There is a strange mentality among some couples whereby they shut off from the outside world and enter their own little bubble. It is as if going to the pub without a partner becomes like trying to walk without a leg.

There is also an inherent problem with the way some people view college as a four-year bender. While going out in college is incredibly fun, at the end of the day your university experience should be about more than getting hammered on Thursday nights. You should value your education and take every opportunity to get involved in clubs and societies in order to meet as many people as possible. College life is social in the extreme, and not just when you’re surrounded by pints.

There are many positives to being in a relationship in general. I found that when I started going out with my partner I learned things about my personality I hadn’t realised when I was single. Finding out how you react to your partner’s quirks or how you bounce off one another can really make you realise your strengths. Not to mention you can become more aware of your flaws and work on them, if your partner is brave enough point them out to you!

You will always have someone to talk to when the going gets tough or when you’re missing home. Being in a relationship is like having your own personal cheerleader. You have someone you can always rely on and won’t let you down. Having a partner means someone is always looking out for you, they can see when you’re getting stressed and can make sure you take a break. They can also give you advice from an outside perspective if you are fighting with your friends or family.

One of my friends who has been both single and in a relationship in college said that she was definitely pro-college relationships. “Your significant other should be the one who has your best interest at heart, admires your ambition and wants to see you happy and doing well,” she says. “In a healthy relationship, both people can provide constant support and encouragement for each other and motivate you to reach your goals.”

If that isn’t a reason to get into a relationship in college what is?

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